Affairs and infidelity

Suspicion of infidelity is an issue that arises at some point or another in nearly every marriage. After all, who wants to be with a person who is giving their heart to someone else? Adultery can single-handedly destroy a marriage instantly, but what if the infidelity goes undetected? How do you know if your wife's cheating on you? There are ways to find out.

In the modern age of technology, text messaging can have a powerful affect on any relationship. Who is your spouse texting and what are they texting about? Answers to these questions could lead to peace of mind and maybe even a better marriage. Adversely, knowing what your spouse is texting about could lead to troubles in the marriage or even its end. Ultimately ethics in this case becomes almost relative; is it more wrong to snoop through your mate's text messages or to commit an act of infidelity?

Divorce statistics reveal that cheating is foremost reason for marriages ending in divorce. While infidelity in marriage is hardly new, with more and more women becoming financially independent and socio-cultural mores firmly underlining equality and monogamy in gender relations, repeated cheating by a spouse, is no longer treated with indulgence or even indifference. Personally, socially and legally, a spouse who has strayed more than once may find it difficult to protect his/her interests if heading for a divorce.

Cheating as ground for divorce

Not too long ago, if you wanted to track down people you lost touch with, you had to be prepared to undergo some heavy-duty detective work -  pulling out phone books, calling old friends’ parents and asking around to the few people you kept in touch with from your high school days. However with the arrival of social networking sites, you only need to type in some buttons to be able to track down some of the people who were a big part of our youth—including an old flame.

Dating at the best of times can be a complex affair – what with balancing work and pleasure as well as negotiating through torturous terrains of idealistic notions and past relationships. However when the guy you are dating happens to be going through a divorce, there can be even more emotional, family and legal issues to work through. No less important are moral questions about whether it is wrong to date a man who is going through divorce and before he is formally a single again.

Get the real picture

Success has long been one of the most potent aphrodisiacs when it comes to drawing women. If evolutionary reasons skewed the attraction equation in favor of men with six packs and a towering height, modern times replaced it with money and success; the motivation was the same – women are more drawn to men who can offer them greater resources, whether for the purpose of producing healthy offspring as then or having a comfortable life as now. And yet the variability of human heart continues to be place a question mark on such neat equations.

Cheating on a spouse strikes at the very heart of a marriage. If this relationship is all about mutual trust and love, having an affair seems to be the surest way to destroy it. And yet an affair need not signify the end of a marriage. With love, hard work and lots of patience you can save your marriage even if your partner is having an affair.

With the anonymity of modern society and even more of the internet, cheating on a spouse seems to have more common than before. So if you have a gut feeling that something is off in your marriage but can’t seem to put your finger on it, chances are that your intuition is right. If you are a man and believe that your wife is cheating on you, here are some signs to watch out for.

She has suddenly become more secretive

Today infidelity ranks among the top reasons for breakdown in marriages.  While growing instances of cheating leads many to take recourse to spying on spouses, questions remain on the ethics and indeed the practical advantages, if any, of the practice.

Social networking over the internet has added a whole new dimension to personal relationships. While sites like Facebook help members to make new friends and connect with like-minded people, they also bring people in touch with old flames and allow them to explore new affairs even though they might be married. Facebook cheating is now a growing phenomenon and so watch out for these signs to see if your spouse is cheating on you through Facebook?


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