When two people start falling in love, they feel that it would never be possible to run out of things to say to each other. But sooner or later, a time comes when even the most devoted of couples may begin to wonder what else to talk about. Which is a pity really, since conversations are one of the most natural ways to know more about each other. So if you are raring to discover more about the new person in your life or simply need to break the monotony of years of marriage, here are a few conversation topics to get you started.
Go back to the early days of your relationship and rediscover what drew you to each other. If you were the one to ask your partner to a date, ask your girlfriend or wife what made her say yes. Or if you were the one to agree to the date, ask what prompted him to choose you to go out with.
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Hobbies are one of the most dependable topics of conversation, no matter how long you have known each other. If you are new to the relationship, discuss hobbies that your partner loved as a child. On the other hand, if you have been married for several years, explore the possibility of doing something new with each other – like going for a hike on Saturdays or taking a salsa class for couples every Wednesday night. Pursuing mutual interests may help you to come closer to each other while doing something fun at the same time.
Vacations comprise one of the most remembered memories among humans. Ask your partner what was the best vacation he/she took before meeting you and why it was fun. You may be surprised to know that some of the most enjoyable vacations may have been weekend trips and not necessarily spent at exotic destinations. Moreover the conversation might offer you valuable pointers on what your partner likes doing best on holidays.
If you are taking a walk at the park, discuss the possibility of having pets someday and if you may, what would you choose to keep. Again if you are already the proud owners of a Labrador or an African parrot, you may think aloud on how having a pet has made a difference to your lives. The topic might seem mundane but it really sounds out issues of home, commitment and role of family in your lives.
Ask about your partner’s day after he/she returns home from work. They may be too tired to say much but the very fact that there is somebody to ask after them may speak volumes of your love and support.
Discussions on future make very interesting conversations, though you may need to tread lightly on touchy issues like kids or finances. Rather ask your partner to name five new things he/she would like to learn before turning forty/fifty/sixty and so on.
If you share common culinary passions, you are unlikely to ever run out of delicious things to say to each other. Discuss a new recipe that you may have come across a magazine or vow to try out the new Lebanese-themed restaurant in town on your next date.
Pore over old albums with your partner and you are certain to have a lot to talk about. Pick up clues from your partner’s attitude on what photos bring back happy memories and then ask him/her to tell you more about the time it was taken.
Choose one aspect of your partner’s physical make-up and compliment him/her on it. If you love the way dimples form on her cheeks when she laughs, say so. Or if your find the small arch of his lower back insanely attractive, tell him that. Your partner will not only be pleased with your words but the conversation could veer to what else you love about each other – something of which no couple can ever have enough.
Inject some fun into your conversations by having him/her tell you about the yuckiest thing they ever had to do. It may be something from their high school chemistry class or the first time they got completely sozzled with friends.
Invite your partner to talk about his or her family. Most people will fondly remember an autumn fishing trip with dad or counting starts on a late summer evening with mom. However if you know that your partner had an unhappy childhood, steer clear of this topic.
Ask your partner about the best teacher he/she had and why. It could be because the teacher could make the subject come alive like no one ever did or because the teacher taught the most important life lessons your partner ever came across.
Spice things up between you two by discussing an erotic fantasy or a crazy thought. However remember to keep it light and fun and don’t bring an element of stress by expecting the other person to act anything out.
Sharing pleasant memories about childhood can also make great conversation between couples. Tell your partner about the first time you spent a night away from home and whether it was a sleepover at a friend’s place or a school trip.
If the two of you could just drop whatever you are doing and do something fun, ask your partner what would it be. This would be an interesting way of knowing what your partner enjoys doing most, especially in your company.
Life goals and values evolve over time and something or someone which you thought your partner considered important may not be so any more. So ask your partner if there was one historical event that he/she could change, what it would be. If this is not the first time you are asking this question, you may be surprised by a different answer compared to the last time.
Talk about what you need to do more to make your partner feel loved and valued.
If you are sharing a home, discuss what material things are important to each of you. Prioritizing future purchases, especially expensive ones, might not seem a very romantic topic of conversation between couples but its lack can create problems in a relationship. So tackle these issues when there is still time.
If you want to know more about the values and ideals your partner holds high, ask about the kind of causes he/she would like to support and why.
Finally, don’t forget to tell your partner how much he/she means to you and about all the ways their love and mere presence has enriched your life.