In these intensely competitive times, people are not always what they appear to be. The same goes for friends too. Someone who you like hanging out with or sharing confidences may be secretly chipping away at your self-esteem and making you feel unworthy. Such a person is usually referred to as a frenemy, in an obvious conjunction of the words ‘Friend’ and ‘Enemy’. This is a person who is actually the latter but masquerades as the former. It may not always be easy to tell a frenemy apart from a genuine friend but here are some tips that you can put you on alert.
Derived from Greek mythology, the term narcissistic personality disorder is used for a person who has an unnatural sense of self-importance and is overly self-involved. In the ancient legend, Narcissus was a handsome youth who fell in love with his own reflection. However in contemporary society which promotes self-love and the pursuit of one’s needs and goals, it can sometimes be difficult to recognize this potentially destructive trait in individuals as well as relationships.
Few things bring as much misery in life as being trapped in a relationship with a manipulative person. He/she may be a lover, flat-mate, co-worker or even a parent. living and interacting with a manipulative individual not only makes for a toxic relationship, but eventually saps the victim’s sense of self-worth, leaving only a shadow of the person behind. If you feel you have been caught up in such a situation, here is how to break free from a manipulative person.
Identify a manipulative relationship
In romantic relationships it is quite natural for partners to be mildly possessive about each other and jealous of other objects of attention. In fact, taken in small doses jealousy helps partners to appreciate each other and not to take the other person for granted. However, when the jealousy is directed against someone from the past, it may be far more difficult to explain or cope with it. Here are a few tips on dealing with retroactive jealousy when it seems endanger your relationship.
When you are jealous of your partner’s past
Dating experts often warn men to watch out what they say to their partners so as not to hurt them. Likewise there are many things that women too, often inadvertently say, which just as soon scare their men away. So if you find that despite being active on the dating circuit for some time, you simply can’t get a guy to stick with you, perhaps you are saying things which he doesn’t want to hear. Here are ten most common things never to say to a guy if you want him to hang around you.
It is natural for a well-meaning spouse to help you towards self-growth and point out ways you can improve yourself. But what if this tendency is carried to such an extent where it begins to hurt your sense of self-worth and self-confidence. Here are a few ways to deal with a spouse who is all the time and overly critical of you.
Punctuality is one of the qualities that signal a socially and professionally well adjusted person. So you may start having second thoughts about your partner if you find that he or she is almost always late in keeping appointments. However before you decide that you’ve had enough and walk out in a huff, here are a few things you can do.
Consider if it is a recent trend
Social behavior is largely a construct of cultural norms prevailing in that particular time and place. Thus instances of social faux pas are usually common when people of different cultural backgrounds and upbringing come together. However there may be other reasons why you probably find being embarrassed by your partner in public – like a controlling personality or lack of social finesse. How you deal with such embarrassing situations will largely depend on the source of your partner’s behavior but almost all will require you to proceed with care and patience.
No matter how completely compatible two people are in a relationship, there are bound to some personal habits of one which drives the other crazy. Popularly termed pet peeves, these seem to pose no major danger to the relationship unlike infidelity, alcoholism or financial irresponsibility. And yet when the irritations caused by pet peeves build up over time, they can burst forth with frightening force and seriously damage a relationship. So should you or not discuss your pet peeves with your partner?
One of the most common problems that couples in a long relationship face, is running out of things to say to each other. You may have booked the baby-sitter, dolled yourself up and manage to get a table at the swanky restaurant, but when you sit down, you find yourselves either painfully quiet or coming up with stale questions to each other. However relationship experts believe that communication quandary is all too common and need not lead to a breakup. Here are few things to do when you are in a relationship and find that there is nothing to talk about.