Commitment and monogamy

Jenny, a consultant in a reputed company, had been married for a year. She was content in her relationship and secure in the marriage. Rex - smart, funny, and a generous lover, had a bright future ahead in the law firm where he worked. Jenny was thrilled that she had been lucky enough to meet him and that they had clicked instantly. Just when everything was hunky dory, her world fell apart. Her friend Lisa told her she’d seen Rex out on the town with someone else. "I couldn’t believe it at first and told Lisa she must have been mistaken", she said.

Trust, as we know, is a crucial factor in any relationship. Many relationships have broken up over trust issues. Once violated, trust is very difficult to repair and rebuild, so it has to be guarded carefully and constantly nurtured. It can be compared to a plant that needs the right soil, water and temperature to flourish and attain full bloom. So too, trust requires the right conditions and environment to sustain a relationship through highs and lows.

It is hard for anyone to live without some appreciation now and then. But when the lack of recognition for all the investment in a relationship comes from someone as close as a husband, it becomes difficult to see why you should go on with such a marriage at all. The good news however is that the situation is not hopeless. So when your husband begins to take you for granted, here are a few ways to remind him of your worth.

Symbols have a significant role in how we make sense of the world and our place in it. One such symbol in human relationships is the wedding ring which stands for marital love and commitment. So while wearing a ring does not automatically guarantee marital fidelity, absence of it may denote various things ranging from lack of love to actively cheating on a spouse. Thus if you find your husband not wearing your wedding ring, here are a few things his action can imply.

Bringing a child into this world is an immense responsibility. It not only demands high levels of personal and physical commitment from the primary caretaker but also the involvement of several other people in the process of child rearing. So before you take this major decision, go through the following ten wrong reasons to have children.

In these times, the circle of people affected by a death has expanded from family, friends, co-workers and acquaintances to include former spouses. And yet the precarious relationship between ex spouses also means that often individuals do not know how to mourn the death of a former partner. Here are a few things to keep in mind when your ex-husband dies and you are tossed onto strange and difficult emotions.

At the funeral

The experience of war is not one which can be left behind at the battlefield. No matter which side wins or loses, every soldier brings back a baggage of memories and emotions from the frontlines. So if you have just been informed that your husband is on his way back home from the war, here are a few ways to prepare yourself and the family.

Be prepared

When you vow take your spouse “for richer or poorer”, “in sickness or health” and “till death do us apart” during your wedding ceremony, the words seem little more than an inspiring note to begin your married life with. It is only when an ugly reality like a life-threatening disease breaks in the ordinariness of married life that the vows are actually put to test. So if your spouse had been diagnosed with a terminal illness, here are a few things to keep in mind.

Learn about it as much as you can

The death of a parent can be a devastating experience for anyone. But when it is your spouse who goes through this, it can affect your entire family for days together. So if your spouse has lost a parent recently, here are a few ways you can support him/her and get back your family life on track.

Just be there

Marriage is at the best of times a delicate balancing act between aspirations and priorities of both partners. And one of the issues which brings this to the fore is whether to stay or to move when a job opportunity is offered to one spouse. If you're the one who is moving because of your partner, you may feel like you're getting the raw end of the deal, giving up a fulfilling life in order to support your significant other. This can not only lead to strain in the marriage but to a more difficult time adapting to your new location even when you decide to go along with the change.

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