How to keep cordial relationship with ex-girlfriends?

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It might seem rather strange to some people to perceive a relationship between a boy and his ex-girlfriend. Yes, we may sound a rather brusque when we talk about ‘relationship’ and ‘ex-girlfriend’ in the same breath. How can these two apparently contradictory terms gel together? One may wonder. Relationship need not always connote an amorous kind that may exist between a boy and a girl. A friendship for instance is one such relationship that can happen between a boy and girl, or rather, his ex-girlfriend.

Is it really possible to keep a cordial relationship with your ex-girlfriend? Ex means past, something or somebody who is done and over with. There is no scope for a relationship with her, exclaims a group of boys who have never even exchanged pleasantries with any of their ex-girlfriends after their relationship ended.

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However, there are certain boys who have not only remained cordial with their ex but have managed to build a strong friendship with them. For starters, let us learn few ways to keep cordial relationship with your ex-girlfriends.

Kind of parting
A sense of being cordial or pleasant with your ex-girlfriend depends on how you ended the relationship. If the parting was uncomplicated with no hard feelings on either side then it's easier to be cordial with your ex-girlfriend. But if the relationship ended on a bitter note, with either of you or both emerging out of the relationship with a feeling of disillusionment or negativity, then it's better to leave your ex-girlfriend in the past - where she truly belongs.

Once your relationship with your girlfriend has ended, make sure your ex-girlfriend has no feelings towards you. It would be difficult to be cordial with her if she still nurtures a feeling of love towards you. Your being cordial may sometimes be mistaken for love.
 
Being cordial with your ex-girlfriend may serve a good purpose if you have entered into a relationship with another girl. There would be no better endorsement than an ex-girlfriend who still sings your praises.



Being cordial to your ex-girlfriend largely depends on your present girlfriend’s choice. ex-girlfriends are often viewed as a ‘threat’ to a relationship. If your present girlfriend throws a fit every time you mention your ex-girlfriend’s name, then it's better to cut all ties with your past relationships. Another option could be to provide adequate reassurance to your new partner that you care for her in a very special way and she has no reason to feel threatened by your ex. Once she understands her position and feels secure, you can be cordial with your ex.

Self-assessment
Do you feel safe to be cordial with your ex-girlfriend? If so, ask yourself if you have been fair to your ex-girlfriend and your new girlfriend. If you are clear about your motive, then it is possible to cordial with your ex.

By being cordial with your ex-girlfriends following a breakup, the new one is far more likely to see you in a positive light.