What are Polish Men like - Dating Guys from Poland

Located in Eastern Europe, Poland is country that is newly finding its feet after decades of Soviet influence. It is rich in art, history, architecture and natural beauty – a fact that more and more people from other parts of the world are discovering now. So if you are visiting Poland or have moved to the country and eager to make friends, here are a few pointers on what Polish men are like.

They like a good discussion

On the whole Polish men are avid conversationalists and enjoy discussing politics, religion and economy. As compared to their American counterparts, Polish guys are less fanatical about sports and outdoor activities. Men from the urban centers are also likely to be well educated which makes conversation with them all the more interesting. Thus if you are planning to go out with a Polish guy on a date for the first time, the usual thing would be meet for a coffee and warm yourselves up with some stimulating conversation as well. For this reason, Polish men make good companions too – they like to talk, discuss about general matters and are not necessarily planning to get you in bed on the very first date.

Influence of the Church

Poland has a long history of Catholicism. However under Soviet hegemony, much of Poland could not practice their religion with freedom. Thus in the post-Soviet era, its people renewed their links with their religion and culture with increased vigor. Therefore if you are dating Polish men, it is best to be prepared for some Catholic influence in his values, opinions and attitudes. If you are staunch practitioner of another religion or even if you are an atheist, you may have some trouble coming to terms with deeply ingrained Catholic values of your Polish partner. Also due to Catholic influence, marriage in Poland is not merely a romantic bond – it is also a duty to the Church and society since one of the main purposes of marriage is procreation. Therefore if you are not ready to settle down and have kids, it is better you discuss these issues early on in a relationship with a Polish guy.

Simple values

Most Polish guys are simple, hard-working people. They like to have a good discussion and even a stiff drink of two but are unpretentious people at heart. So if you like to lead a flamboyant life and are used to men lavishing expensive treats and gifts on you, maybe Polish guys are not your best bet. On the whole, they do not subscribe to ostentatious display of wealth and in reality, many of them cannot afford wasteful expenditure. While this is not to imply that guys in Poland are frugal partners, most of them are aware of the foolishness of living beyond one’s means just for the sake of keeping up appearances. However in recent times, because of the economic hardships, many men have taken to cultivate relationships with women, particularly those who belong to America, UK or similar rich nations. Such men see their partners mainly as a way to escape the poor economic conditions of their own country and a passport to a society with more comforts and opportunities. Fortunately though such men are a minority but still a foreign woman should be careful of who she hooks up with during her stay here.

Traditional at heart

Even though Poland has joined the rest of the western world after the lifting up of the Iron Curtain, it is still largely traditional as far as social relations and interactions are concerned. Part of the reason is the overwhelming influence of the Catholic Church. Here men and women have clearly-defined roles and expectations in society. Men on the whole like women who are feminine in their appearance and behavior. Girls who smoke, swear and dress in masculine dresses are deemed upstarts and aggressive. So if you want to make a good first impression you may need to don a more lady-like appearance. Also if you are heading for a serious relationship, it is better that you let his family know that you can rustle up golabki or pieroki with élan. This is because family approval is quite important to a Polish guy before marriage. All this to not to mean that you should stop being who you are at heart, but consider it a part of the value system that Polish men grow up with.

Also women here are the traditional keepers of the home and caretakers of the family. So if you detest ‘womanly’ jobs such as cooking and cleaning, think carefully before taking a Polish guy as a partner. However in recent times, there have been significant changes in social mores and attitudes. As more and more women receive higher education and join the workforce as skilled professionals, there is more social acceptance of egalitarian attitudes and equitable gender roles. Thus the younger generations of men who have been exposed to western values by education or work experience abroad see the importance of jointly sharing all responsibilities – including domestic duties – in a marriage.