A relationship involves a massive amount of adjustments and sacrifices. These adjustments and sacrifices however, should be equally divided between the couple. A couple, who are so much in love, committed and completely honest about their feelings for each other, will surpass any obstacle that may threaten to ruin their relationship.
Most long distance relationship problems can be solved by keeping phone conversations interesting. 'Tell Me Honey...2000 Questions for Couples' is a best-selling book on this subject, available from Amazon.com. Read this book and you'll have your partner looking forward to your phone conversations even when you're separated by thousands of miles.
A change in one of the partner's behavior or attitude should be taken as a warning sign and preventive measures should be sought to deal with an impending problem. Such defensive actions are possible in the case of face-to-face relationships, where a tell-tale sign or expression can set the alarm bells ringing. How does one detect a warning sign when the partner in question is couple of miles away from you? In a long distance relationship, akin to face-to-face ones, warning signs are always there, but it takes an alert partner to detect it in time and put the relationship back on track.
A lack of enthusiasm for the relationship may result in lesser number of phone calls or e-mails. The arrangement of staying away from each other still works but the passion is missing. If one of the partners has no genuine enthusiasm for the relationship, it may be in trouble. Trust is a vital factor in such a relationship, if you are constantly worried about your partner going out to clubs or dating other men/women then maybe that the person is not made for such a relationship.
A constant vigil, in terms of numerous phone calls or e-mails enquiring about his/her whereabouts, can signal a complete lack of distrust. Instincts are very important in a long distance relationship but don't confuse your instincts with paranoia. Maintaining a long distance relationship can often border on bankruptcy if the number of phone calls and visits are not planned in a prudent way. There is no room for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your long distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner wholeheartedly.
A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point of your long distance relationship.
Complete apathy towards your feelings, or about the relationship in particular, is a warning sign that should not be ignored. Your partner's apparent indifference could have stemmed out of frustration of not seeing you or it could be an indication that another woman has entered his life. Although it may not be done intentionally, this type of mistake will be very costly to your long distance relationship.
In a long-distance relationship, it's often easy to misinterpret, misunderstand, or discount your partner's feelings, words or actions on account of the difficulty of communication, clarity of intent or effort as contrasted with that of regular dating relationships. If your partner starts misinterpreting every word you utter or try to read between lines, it's a warning sign of mistrust. It's essential to maintain a sense of humor with your partner, sharing in blunders of miscommunication and being able to laugh at your situation together.
Knowing, understanding and accepting your partner is a long-term process and healthy relationships require respect for differences and awareness of each other's strengths and weaknesses and positive and negative qualities.