The end of a marriage and the consequent process of a divorce can be traumatic enough to put a man or woman off the thought of ever dating again. But if there are kids in the scene, going out to meet new singles seems completely out of the question. And yet going back to dating post-divorce is a healthy sign that you are moving on. Here are some of the challenges and rewards of dating when you are divorced and with children.
The unraveling of a marriage is one of the most traumatic experiences a person can go through. Added to this are numerous legal and financial complications that come with the divorce process. Here are a few tips on how to get back to dating and the issues to consider once you have filed for divorce from your spouse.
Christian dating, in a massively sexualized and (arguably) immoral modern society, can be quite a challenge in and of itself. Trying to do it a second time around, after your first marriage has fizzled out, can seem pretty much hopeless. Trying to find a perfect life partner with good Christian values, which include virginity until marriage and the unwillingness to divorce by many standards, can seem like an exercise in hypocrisy.
Individual circumstances surrounding a divorce, will determine how you cope with the social and dating scene as a newly emerging single. You will probably be terrified to discover that the social world of dating has moved on without you and nobody has thought to explain the new rules.
1. Take your time after the divorce
As you get married, in that first flush of love and saying your vows, you'd really like to believe it would last forever. And then when it doesn't and you become another divorce statistic you're not sure how it happened or what went wrong.
Gemma, a recently divorced mother of a five-year-old found herself struggling to cope after her marriage ended. Jeff had been her high school sweetheart and somehow she'd envisaged they'd always be together. In fact, she still had trouble figuring out when exactly the relationship had begun to sour.