How to Keep your Husband Interested in You - Tips and Advice
It is way easier to control a man in love, than a man in lust. After the first few years of marriage, women often find it difficult to keep their men interested in them, as lust wanes away after sometime, and men are inherently wired to lose interest, once they are satisfied.
Here are few simple tips to make your man emotionally defenseless, so that you can hold the reins of your relationship, and keep him besotted.
Be a siren
Keep your man on his toes, by playing the role of a siren. Build a cloud of enigma around you. A certain degree of elusiveness will make him crave for more of you. Unpredictability is an extremely potential tool to keep your husband fascinated. Never expose yourself too much. Send confusing indications by being unyielding and pliable, and innocent and wicked, all at the same time. A combination of attributes lends intensity in your personality, and that will make him want to explore you more and keep him hooked to you.
Refrain from being too nice all the time
By being extra-nice and obedient, to your husband, you may feel good about yourself at the end of the day, but the fact is, with an over-dose of nicety, you not only stand the risk of losing the power of seduction, you may even end up getting under his skin. You may be perceived as being pretentious. Moreover, pure goodness is rarely alluring. Occasionally let out hints of dark shades in your character. Be cruel, or even dirty if required, but don’t be banal and dime-a-dozen.
Exploit your sex appeal to the core
Visual appeal is extremely important for men. While women love through their brain, men love through their vision. It is imperative to keep your sex quotient up. Refrain from being complacent after marriage. Groom yourself, put in some efforts to keep yourself physically and mentally fit and energetic.
Use a perfume to accentuate your persona
The scent of a woman is the biggest turn on for a man. Wear clothes, shoes and makeup that suit your taste and personality, and also his taste at the same time. However, do not overdo the makeup. Men like natural looks. Remember the efforts you put in, in the first few months of your relationship? Try to keep it as fresh as that by constantly appealing to his basic instincts.
All these efforts will also make you feel confident and good about you.
Moreover, we are all social beings and highly influenced by the tastes and desires of our fellow social beings. Women, who are physically attractive, dignified, self-assured and graceful, are often attractive to other men around. This, apart from giving a boost to his self-esteem, will make him think twice before foregoing someone with a high market value as that of yours. Make sure though, that you dress and carry yourself in a manner so as to seek only his attention, and not that of other men around.
Don’t forget his emotional and intellectual needs
In pursuing your efforts to appeal to his basic instincts, don’t forget to address his emotional and intellectual needs. His favorite colors, favorite reads, movies, books, et al should be at your fingertips. Surprise him occasionally by gifting his favorites to him. Find out the recipe of his favorite snacks, dishes and drinks. Keep them ready for him when he’s back from office. Study his mind and make your way into his spirit. Adopt yourself to his likes, dislikes and moods. As human beings, though we may pretend to be humble, deep down, we are all narcissists and self-obsessed. Caress it as much as you can and make him dependent on you. Once you have managed to enter his spirit, you can buttress his defenses, and he will be unable to turn back from you.
Though men may seem to be sexually oriented, at the top of any man’s wish list, is respect from his partner. Make him feel, not only through your words, but actions too, that you value his presence in your life.
Boost his confidence
Contrary to their external appearance, men are like babies, who crave for compliments and affection. Boost his confidence, by validating his image about himself. This will enable him to open up with you. Tell him directly or subtly whatever you like about him. Telling him that you love him once a day, will make him feel good.
Encourage and praise him
Encourage him in all his endeavors, and tell him that you have full faith in him. Even if he makes a blunder, instead of making faces and rolling your eyes, wish him better luck next time. Praise him for making an effort. If he wants to vent out his anger and frustrations at you, let him do so. Vague hints that he has power over you, will give him a sense of security. Make him feel, that you are always there behind him.
Even if there is a major disagreement with him, never use extra-harsh words, as that may cause irreparable damage to your relationship.
Be sensitive to him at bed. Men are hyper-sensitive when it comes to sex. The feeling of being unable to satisfy his partner sexually is very discouraging for him. Showing explicit dissatisfaction towards his performance at bed is almost a blasphemy as that may put down his morale. Compliment him on his performance, and tell him that he makes you feel good at bed. This will invigorate him, and boost his spirit, and he will be able to perform better.
Experiment and improvise
Buy attractive lingerie especially to seduce him, and he will find you irresistible. If he wants to experiment, let him do so. If at all you don’t like something, let out very subtle hints, by telling him how he can improve on that, along with complimenting his other performances.
Take the initiative
Don’t always lie dormant and expect him to take the initiative. It is okay if you take the initiative at times. That will make him feel wanted. Bear in mind though, not to exaggerate your excitement on bed. Men often find excess of passion by women desensitizing and a turn off. Be natural at bed.
Men evolve in relationships with time. Be understanding and patient towards him, and be co-operative in all directions, and you will end up being paid rich dividends in terms of him, eventually counting on you for everything.